What to do if you always present yourself awkwardly

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Who’s probably social awkward

1. People with a specific personality type

The meeting of all these psychasthenics — often doubtful, anxious people, objects are difficult for strangers and are found in connection with a new business.

Awkwardness, a sense of embarrassment, and constraint are manifested in introverts, which manifest themselves in close communication only with a narrow circle of people and individuals with increased anxiety. Such people are reconsidering that they can give the wrong answer, offend the interlocutor, or look inappropriate.

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2. Insecure people

A person of any personality type can feel uncomfortable in society if he has been exposed to feelings from peers or parents for a long time. Even amiable and optimistic people can become less sensitive to negative experiences and being in an aggressive social environment.

Is it necessary to fight it?

A shy person is usually not the ringleader or soul of the company. However, they possess essential qualities, such as sensitivity and delicacy. A typical example is director Woody Allen. Her inherited shyness did not prevent her from becoming famous. So the main thing is to realize yourself and learn how to use it.

Not always the awkwardness of feelings of poor quality, the animals must be fought. Instead, it is an excellent diagnostic feature that helps you deal with your inner world. In some cases, awkwardness can be an additional opportunity to connect with the right person and establish emotional contact with them.

If the feeling of awkwardness prevents you from living and achieving your goals, it is possible to change your attitude towards this trait and develop new behavioral strategies. You can’t completely change your personality type.

With characterological qualities to fight with thoughts. It is not something terrible, not a flaw, but part of your personality. You need to know about it and make decisions about it.

How to get rid of the awkwardness

1. A well-defined goal

In any case, a plan and understanding of your goals do not interfere. Think about the cases in which awkwardness interferes with you: in communication with the opposite sex, with superiors and officials, with attractive people, or with acquaintances too?

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You should always first be puzzled by an internal investigation, namely the alignment of self-esteem and the elimination of anxiety, and then the psychological mechanisms of communication.

2. Think about whether you can handle it yourself

Sometimes self-doubt and increased anxiety can be manifestations of social phobia and other severe disorders. There are tests on the Internet to determine the level of depression and social phobia, but it is better not to get involved in self-diagnosis. If you suspect you have something, contact a specialist.

3. Start small

It is universal advice for all situations, but it is imperative here. If a person of the psychasthenic type expects too much from himself, this will only aggravate everything. There is training where you need to approach strangers on the street and ask them for money or hugs. Don’t start with people like that if they scare you to death.

4. Know yourself

The root of many problems is that a person presents himself not as he is. The more we know ourselves, the less we fear the results being ridiculous and someone not liking it.

Our main fear is not living up to the supposed expectations. The awkwardness arises when we commit an act or disagree with the illusion about ourselves.

You need to understand your characteristics and the ability to make mistakes for yourself because no one is immune from them.

5. Change your focus

When a person is embarrassed, he entirely focuses on himself and his feelings. Instead, pay attention to others, and be genuinely interested in someone’s life or story. In the end, it may even be dishonest: perhaps your body did not notice your timidity or oversight, and you no longer hear it and do not hear it yourself.

6. Carefully measure the social circle

It is tough to increase self-esteem if your loved ones make fun of you or assert themselves at your expense. Get rid of such pseudo-friends, consisting of colleagues and relatives, at the maximum distance.

7. Keep a Record

With the world plan, write down all the successes and templates of phrases for communication. There is nothing shameful in the Collection of cheat sheets for self-development. In addition, written information is better absorbed.

8. Read books on psychology and self-development

Many of them help to change lives dramatically. For awkward people, we especially recommend books on body language and facial expressions, such as The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan Pease.

9. Just wait

With age, people accumulate experience and react less to the opinions of others. So to some extent, the problem will be solved by itself. Of course, this option is only suitable if shyness and shyness do not significantly interfere with your life.

10. Don’t take it personally

Remember: if someone is rude or taciturn, it is most likely not about you. This person probably behaves like this with everyone or is not in a good mood. Insecure people are often too suspicious and take any negativity personally. But we are not responsible for someone else’s behavior, but we can control our own.

11. Know your worth when trying to connect

Avoid negativity, but do not fawn or remain silent if you have been offended. It is better to blush and stammer to say that you were hurt than to silently leave, swallowing the insult or not understanding the situation.

12. Remember: before you, many have successfully passed this path

So it’s accurate for you too. We wish you good luck!

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